I Need Love Advice

[superfecta]

Originally Posted by letswastemoney

-We don't live in big cities, but for this motel visit it will be in a big city

-It actually used to happen closer to twice a month, but I complained so much about being kicked out early and how bizarre the whole thing felt that it set off lots of other arguments and things became bad between us. But now they are better....and so...we're trying again

-We do go out in public, although I've never met her friends...even though it's been more than a few months...but we do go out to movies and dinner sometimes. People have told me it's odd she makes me pay always, but yeah...sometimes we go out....if there's money in my wallet lol...

Never met her friends and you spend all the money means your a sugarfriend with benefits.It may feel like love to you but its not.the capper would be your freinds asking why you put up with her,they see something you dont.

[letswastemoney]

Okay well it's been a few days so I thought I should update.

I argued for a lower price point. I said it would be expensive to drive to this place (it's a long drive to a bigger city from where I am), I'm not a rich person, I pleaded with her to understand I'm not a bank account and couldn't afford more than my lowered price point. The fact she wanted to kick me out early was a bargaining point for a lower price as well.

She hesitantly agreed at first, although she repeatedly called me back trying to get me to pay more. She tried to make me feel guilty about it, saying I promised to pay this exact amount. But I stood my ground.

She changed her mind hours later and said not to come to the motel anymore

Anyways, end of story, I probably shouldn't say anymore

[Greyfox]

Sorry to hear the sad ending, but there are lots of fish in the sea.
You have two choices.
1. Take a walk down lonely street to Heartbreak Hotel

or see next post.

[Greyfox]

2. Start singing "Got along without you before I met you....[YT="Got along without you before I met you"]XhBuLDBvdNA [/YT]

[LottaKash]

Originally Posted by letswastemoney

Okay well it's been a few days so I thought I should update.

I argued for a lower price point. I said it would be expensive to drive to this place (it's a long drive to a bigger city from where I am), I'm not a rich person, I pleaded with her to understand I'm not a bank account and couldn't afford more than my lowered price point. The fact she wanted to kick me out early was a bargaining point for a lower price as well.

She hesitantly agreed at first, although she repeatedly called me back trying to get me to pay more. She tried to make me feel guilty about it, saying I promised to pay this exact amount. But I stood my ground.

She changed her mind hours later and said not to come to the motel anymore

Anyways, end of story, I probably shouldn't say anymore

Shallow girl, imo....I believe you saved yourself a lot of grief and confusion in the process....A girl that shallow, no one needs....Some girlfriend....

Very suspicious, and you don't need to know anymore....good for you...

best,

[jonnielu]

Originally Posted by letswastemoney

She does. I pay for some, but I give the money to her and she sets up everything.

And since she kicks me out, she checks out.

What's the tatoo/body piercing count? Over 3 combined, and you have yourself a lunatic. Check out http://crackreality.com and see if anything hits you as familiar.

These bumps in the relationship road can be avoided by inviting relationship prospects for the Denahan Laundry Test. Simple, effective, it turns up lunatic women better even more reliably then the tatoo/ body piercing / pet count.

jdl

[illinoisbred]

Keep your mind on whats important-9 races today -somewhere,anywhere. Or if you're a multi-track player 18,or 27, or even 36. And guess what- theres 9 more tommorrow. So buck up and get back to what really matters! Girls come and go-they always will. Follow that advice and you can end up like me-single at 53!

[DJofSD]

Sorry to hear the ways have parted.

Intro is about 30 seconds: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vnaMIEI0h8

[miesque]

Originally Posted by letswastemoney

Okay well it's been a few days so I thought I should update.

I argued for a lower price point. I said it would be expensive to drive to this place (it's a long drive to a bigger city from where I am), I'm not a rich person, I pleaded with her to understand I'm not a bank account and couldn't afford more than my lowered price point. The fact she wanted to kick me out early was a bargaining point for a lower price as well.

She hesitantly agreed at first, although she repeatedly called me back trying to get me to pay more. She tried to make me feel guilty about it, saying I promised to pay this exact amount. But I stood my ground.

She changed her mind hours later and said not to come to the motel anymore

Anyways, end of story, I probably shouldn't say anymore

While I know you must feel pretty lousy, after reading your update I can without a doubt now state that you are substantially better off without her and that this is someone who is going to cost you a tremendous amount of grief and agony, not to mention money if you did not part company. I actually find it pretty appalling that she was calling you up trying to get you pay more when you made it clear it was not immaterial to your wallet. As a general rule, any woman that is already pushing the money card when you are just dating is going to be more and more trouble as the relationship goes on. I am someone who likes nice things and travels well but I would never try to force or shame someone else into pick up that tab, which is exactly what she is doing.

[Greyfox]

So I awoke this morning and the following song was on my mind.
It sounds like she's telling you : "If you got the money honey...

Here's Left Frizzell putting to music.
[YT=""Lefty Frizzell/ If You Got the Money..."]vYUr4wNdDZc[/YT]

[BlueShoe]

Originally Posted by jonnielu

These bumps in the relationship road can be avoided by inviting relationship prospects for the Denahan Laundry Test.

Would you care to elaborate a bit about this test? Some of us have had a much harder time picking winning relationships than we have had picking winning horses.

[Robert Goren]

Lefty got it right.

[Grits]

LMW, do yourself a favor and stand your ground further. Don't return her calls. Regardless, whether they're repeated several times a day. Once a day. Or, once a week. She'll get the message when she's ignored.

On the other hand you could try this.

Meet her once more at her hotel of choice. Price doesn't matter, you're fine with it. Well into the evening, preferably while both of you are comfortable but before you consummate your evening--Get out of the bed. Pick up your clothes. Go in the bathroom and dress. Walk out, look at her, open your wallet. Throw a handful of twenties on the bed. Or a hundred dollar bill, even. Softly state, "I have no problem leaving you early; you're not worth any of this."

Quietly close the door behind you.

You're done. Don't bother with her again.

Sometimes, men need schooling in how to handle women such as this one--and usually no one is better at this than another woman. Hopefully, you've learned a lesson you can carry with you. One may negotiate a peace treaty, a salary, a car, a home, etc. One doesn't negotiate getting laid.

Life is short. Don't look back. But most of all, don't ever let a woman treat you like this again.

[Greyfox]

Originally Posted by Grits

Sometimes, men need schooling in how to handle women such as this one--

Yes. Some men need schooling. Rhett Butler knew how to say:

"Frankly my dear I don't give a damn."



[YT=""Frankly my Dear I don't give a damn!""]GZ7z6hpO57c [/YT]

[illinoisbred]

Thats good advice Mr. Wastemoney. Afterall, your name's not LetsBe A Doormat.