What are your lifetime regrets?

[Inner Dirt]

This, like the pet peeve thread I made thinking about an ex-girlfriend after a current break up of a long relationship that damn near spanned all previous relationships combined, even a marriage. In the pet peeve thread I realized I am not the grouchiest old man on the planet.



In her full of herself opinion she claimed to have no lifetime regrets, I have too many to count, and I assume a normal person has many. I am sorry but my two biggest ones involve sex and violence. I was used as as punching bag
as a child by an abusive father, my parents divorced at 12 and I went to live with my mom. I lifted weights and grew like a weed, and got into boxing by the age of 16. At 18 visiting him I came out of the bathroom and my girl was crying because of what he said to her. Instead of firing him up, I said "Let's go Elaine."



Even in his later years when he was old and frail I protected him, the same man who beat me and my mother, fuck that, I regret not putting him through the torture he gave us.


This next one, I suppose is bragging, especially to my new found enemy who lights me up, defending Cliffy. In my mid 20's , but I am her boss, a smoking hot black chick who was a Tina Turner look alike, let us just say we flirted a lot. She told me she had never been with a white man, was that a hint? At the time her husband still worked in the other side of the plant but often disappeared for a weekend at a time. This girl went to HS with my wife who quit after we got married, who I was separated with at the time. This girl asked me what I was doing for the weekend, obviously wanting to spend the weekend with me. Idiot me, I said that would not be good idea. If her husband did not work in the plant I would have taken her home and kept her.

[PaceAdvantage]

Never seeing Judas Priest live in concert

[Tom]

Not cold-cocking Chuck Shumer in 2008 when I wastwo feet from him.
I'd have been out of jail 5 years now.

[Inner Dirt]

Originally Posted by PaceAdvantage

Never seeing Judas Priest live in concert

Good one. You got another thing coming, for that!
I figure you are 10 years younger than me, or so.



Mine for entertainment was never seeing Fats Domino in concert in Vegas, with so many times going there when he was playing. When I was buying LPs as an 8-9 years old, Fats was in my first 5 purchases. Unfortunately when the legendary fat man was in Vegas I could not pry myself off the card tables. Rest in Peace Fats, you are a bad MF on a piano.

[lamboguy]

Les Onaka not on the Quarters and losing one day a week of racing at Los Al.

[proximity]

Originally Posted by Inner Dirt

This, like the pet peeve thread I made thinking about an ex-girlfriend after a current break up of a long relationship that damn near spanned all previous relationships combined, even a marriage. In the pet peeve thread I realized I am not the grouchiest old man on the planet.



In her full of herself opinion she claimed to have no lifetime regrets, I have too many to count, and I assume a normal person has many. I am sorry but my two biggest ones involve sex and violence. I was used as as punching bag
as a child by an abusive father, my parents divorced at 12 and I went to live with my mom. I lifted weights and grew like a weed, and got into boxing by the age of 16. At 18 visiting him I came out of the bathroom and my girl was crying because of what he said to her. Instead of firing him up, I said "Let's go Elaine."



Even in his later years when he was old and frail I protected him, the same man who beat me and my mother, fuck that, I regret not putting him through the torture he gave us.


This next one, I suppose is bragging, especially to my new found enemy who lights me up, defending Cliffy. In my mid 20's , but I am her boss, a smoking hot black chick who was a Tina Turner look alike, let us just say we flirted a lot. She told me she had never been with a white man, was that a hint? At the time her husband still worked in the other side of the plant but often disappeared for a weekend at a time. This girl went to HS with my wife who quit after we got married, who I was separated with at the time. This girl asked me what I was doing for the weekend, obviously wanting to spend the weekend with me. Idiot me, I said that would not be good idea. If her husband did not work in the plant I would have taken her home and kept her.

there is a lot here and i think we can look at it two ways.

(1) as an unencumbered young alpha running around southern california in her better days you were probably pulling more caboose than a locomotive, so there were likely plenty of good options. (2) on the other hand this fact maybe shows just how potentially special you thought this particular woman was that you still think of her decades later?

in the end, i think you made the right decision and even displayed a moral compass that it sounds like wasn't passed down from your father and that is admirable.

as for me, not sure if i'd call it a regret, but sometimes i wonder how things would have turned out had i joined the dark side and went to work for the casino when it came to town?

[thaskalos]

We all have regrets, because life is hard and we all make big mistakes. But I think it helps to realize that these "mistakes" didn't seem like mistakes when we were making them. I also think that it helps if we make most of our "mistakes" when we are younger... so we can have more time to overcome them and learn from them.

[Robert Fischer]

1). crying like a bitch when I contemplated this topic.

I have to move on and 'process' from there.

[Dave Schwartz]

Originally Posted by thaskalos

We all have regrets, because life is hard and we all make big mistakes. But I think it helps to realize that these "mistakes" didn't seem like mistakes when we were making them. I also think that it helps if we make most of our "mistakes" when we are younger... so we can have more time to overcome them and learn from them.

Indeed, so.

While I certainly have actions from my past that I'd love to unwind and do differently, the way things have turned out, I'd be afraid to disturb that timeline too much.

One regret I do have...
I was in Japan for racing in 2002. (Yokohama, during the World Cup)

I had a day planned to hike Mount Fuji.

Slept in a little and decided I'd go the next day.

Then, on the next day, something came up with my host and I pushed the day trip off again. Never got another opportunity.




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[Inner Dirt]

I thought of a horse racing one, this was working at the same place as the Tina Turner look alike and it was just a couple years before the OTB's in my area of SoCal opened. Delmar had a speed biased period and that played to my strength. I was really licking my chops and contemplated skipping work, but I didn't. Needless to say I would have had the whole pool, you could have heard me cussing in the next county watching the replay show on KDOC 56.
It was a multi day carryover $225k in the pot. The biggest pick 6 I played and hit was $36k and I took down the whole pot with no carry over mid week. After being 4 out of 4, I started rooting against my horses.

[Inner Dirt]

Originally Posted by PaceAdvantage

Never seeing Judas Priest live in concert

I just looked on line, they are still touring, they will be in Indio California Oct 6-8. Go see the desert if you never have. I went to the OTB there, looks like they now have a casino with a hotel and sportsbook.

[Inner Dirt]

Originally Posted by lamboguy

Les Onaka not on the Quarters and losing one day a week of racing at Los Al.

I heard like 5 years ago Les was in poor health, is he still with us?

[Inner Dirt]

Originally Posted by proximity

(2) on the other hand this fact maybe shows just how potentially special you thought this particular woman was that you still think of her decades later?

You are so right, I am a giant idiot, thanks for kicking a man while he is down.
, it has been 35 years. I honestly cannot remember the names
of half the women I slept with back in the day, but I remember all the ones I did not. The present has been rough lately so I have been thinking of days gone by, to cheer myself up.

[thaskalos]

Originally Posted by Inner Dirt

You are so right, I am a giant idiot, thanks for kicking a man while he is down.
, it has been 35 years. I honestly cannot remember the names
of half the women I slept with back in the day, but I remember all the ones I did not. The present has been rough lately so I have been thinking of days gone by, to cheer myself up.

The intelligent, strong, handsome guy that you were...I'm not surprised.

[proximity]

Originally Posted by Inner Dirt

You are so right, I am a giant idiot, thanks for kicking a man while he is down.
, it has been 35 years. I honestly cannot remember the names
of half the women I slept with back in the day, but I remember all the ones I did not. The present has been rough lately so I have been thinking of days gone by, to cheer myself up.

it is my pleasure, lol and actually your post made me laugh as i've spent much of 2023 listening to a local horseplayer reminisce about a former grantville girl who (to protect the innocent or maybe in this case, not so innocent) we'll call "mary." and to tell the absolute truth, our talks have been therapy for me too!

yes, i wanted mary too and although she wasn't exactly mila kunis, i was far from alone. in addition to my pony playing pal, i suspect at least one lurker right here at pa (!!) wanted a crack at that and even one of my current bosses (driving knish's truck) still expresses regrets!

"the one that got away" i tease the boss as we sip our black coffee, no cream and sugar to punish us for our past sins or in this case lack thereof.

mary shipped in from ruidoso where she was supposedly "sexually harrassed." this initially threw cold water on a lot of our fires but time would make many question exacta-ly what was going out there in nm and the flames would begin to burn strong all over town!

my big chance came when our precocious princess asked "proximity, you don't want a fat girl?" wells, she wasn't exactly fat but rather "built for fun" as yet another mary devotee would say in a flash of poetic brilliance he never approached before or since. needless to say it never went down and soon mary had a baby with a hero at taco bell and shipped out to arapahoe.

thank you for reading!