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I can relate, I stayed away from any relationships while I gambled for a living because I didn't think it would be fair to a wife. Then when I walked away from the gambling part of it because I wanted to get married I still worked on version 2 of On-Target for about the first 12 or 13 years of my marriage. So full time regular day job in IT and then just about all of those decompression spare moments were writing code in my home office. Then after 12 years working for a fortune 20 I went through a layoff and within 6 months of that I was separated. Found another job but the die was cast at that point as far as the marriage went, so now divorced and paying child support for both kids until they turn 21 (thanks NY) my oldest turned 21 on the 15th, he's living with me, youngest is living with his mom. I don't know what kind of advice I'm qualified to give. I think one useful thing is if you're a morning person and she isn't then get up at the crack of dawn and get your handicapping out of the way. The decompression / escape part I really relate to. It's bad because we disengage with everyone when we do that but we almost do it to survive mentally, if that makes sense.
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