I will probably regret this tomorrow...

[PhantomOnTour]

...but i just walked out on my business partner and my job.

I was a minority managing partner in an Italian restaurant here in Lafayette, La.
To make a long story short, the majority managing partner felt the need to flex his muscles each and every day, after a full bottle of wine ofcourse, and remind everyone who the big boss was and who the little boss was (me)....and he flexed by getting right in your face (i'm talking Earl Weaver vs Dutch Rennert here) and using every F*** and G**D*** he could muster up.

All of this within earshot of our guests so that they were privy to each and every curse word as he screamed them...not the way to do business, pal.
It was on tonight, we had a full house and a five table waiting list.
I just couldn't take anymore.

Time for a bottle of wine myself, i guess.
Tomorrow ain't gonna be fun.

[Steve 'StatMan']

I'm sorry Phantom, but seems to me you had every right to. He needs to see his problems and learn a lesson. Whether he learns it is no guarantee, but that behavior is going to ruin your mutual business in the near future even if you stay.

I don't envy you right now, very tough situation. Hope you can stay stout and sane through all of this. Maybe he'll even wake up - if it isn't too late already.

I know I never had my ex-wife's true respect until I got out of the relationship (no kids.)

[Fwizard]

You made the right move---saved years off your life because of the stress reduction...I am sure you can find someone else to work with.. Good Luck

[sammy the sage]

Be a man...be your OWN boss...bought time you grew a set!

[chickenhead]

regret nothing, you made a positive course correction today. sounds like you had a grade A A-hole there, life is too short for that kind of bullshit. Go do something fun tomorrow. Recharge a bit. Relax. You'll have no trouble finding a better environment.

[Tom]

Whenever some asks you why you left.....mumble something about the health department and the and then walk away. ;)

[canleakid]

;) you did what had to be done!!!!!!!!!! the red wine is on me !!!!!!!

[johnhannibalsmith]

What chickenhead said.

[sandpit]

Great move IMO; I walked out of a similar situation when I was in my 20s; the stress just wasn't worth it.

Without knowing anything about your situation, you'd probably be wise to retain a lawyer to ease the pain of the business split.

Best of luck to ya.

[Tom]

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[RaceBookJoe]

Congratulations !!!! rbj

[NJ Stinks]

Phantom, I'm rooting for you to land on your feet. Just wanted you to know.

[Johnny V]

It may be painful but you can hold your head up because you know you did the right thing. Fugedaboudit !

[Grits]

Phantom, have your wine tonight, then get a good night's sleep. Tomorrow's a new day, and you're not done yet. Sandpit's right.

Never leave money on the table, and of course, you know this, I know.

Your unfortunate filthy mouth partner is that--a partner--and he'll have to buy your interest out of the restaurant, or else, you can lien his business, his building, its contents, etc. Besides, you'll need start up costs for your new restaurant that's gonna put him . . . . out of business. LOLOL

It'll all work out, and for the better, no doubt.

[Dave Schwartz]

So what happens now?

Do you have any leverage for financial recourse or are you simply "out" like any employee?


Finally, I am reminded of a story that Anthony Robbins tells about Lee Iacocca which may be applicable here:

A little history first. Lee Iacocca worked at Ford Motor Company for like 30 years, rising to President. In 1978 he clashed with Henry Ford II and was fired despite the fact that FMC made $2 billion that year. To say that there was bad blood between Iacocca and Henry Ford would be n understatement.

As the story goes, Iacocca was laying in bed with his wife one night just after being offered the position as head of Chrysler. He was telling his wife about the offer but painted a very dismal picture of the situation Chrysler was in. He told his wife that he didn't think there was any way to save the company.

His wife's response was, "I'll bet Mr. Ford will be happy to hear that."

The rest, as they say, is history. (Of course, Chrysler has come upon hard time again but that is a different story.)

The moral of this story brings me to the question: "Phantom, is it possible that your town is about to have a new restaurant in the immediate vicinity of the place you used to live?"


Best wishes, friend.
Dave Schwartz

[maddog42]

Phantom, Do not let an asshole partner dictate the way you leave your business.
Grits was right. You have legal recourse, and nothing is written in stone. It might be better if you can leave lawyers out of this for the time being and see if your partner has changed his tune. Maybe this fellow has watched too many episodes of Chef Ramsey. Good luck to you in your endeavors. I am certain you have done the right thing whether you sell out or stay.

[newtothegame]

Have to agree Phantom.....you did the best thing possible.
Now go kick his butt with another resturaunt!!! I will surely dine there as we travel towards your way at least four times a year. Just post the address and have a bottle of wine ready!
best of luck!

[johnhannibalsmith]

Hell, come to Arizona, these whackos here think that going out for Italian means shuttling off to the Olive Garden.

Of course, I moved from a place where eating Mexican meant Taco Bell, but there's no dealing with a place that has a 24,999:1 ratio of bean shops to pasta joints.

[bigmack]

Of course, I moved from a place where eating Mexican meant Taco Bell, but there's no dealing with a place that has a 24,999:1 ratio of bean shops to pasta joints.
I smell a screenplay. Bean Shops & Pasta Joints.

All out restaurant turf war. Mexicans Vrs. Italians.

No noodle or tortilla will go unscathed! It'll be a flour bath.

[ldiatone]

phantom..did a similiar thing several years ago. i know the feeling . you'll be fine. good luck! remember as Fernand Point says "cuisine starts in the morning"

(go steelers)

[PhantomOnTour]

Thanks for the kind words y'all :ThmbUp:

This has been a long time coming, and i don't feel as bad as i thought i would today.

Surprised no one took me to task over my Earl Weaver vs Dutch Rennert analogy...dontcha' know Rennert was a National League ump?
I will amend that to Earl Weaver vs Don Denkinger ;)

Today is the first day of the rest of my life...
Call it a midlife crisis if you will (i'm 42yrs old), but I am getting out of the service/restaurant industry for good. Those of you who are in this line of work will know exactly how i feel.

So what do I do now?
I pursue my greatest passion, the thing that excites me today just like it did the first time...sex!
Just kidding...I'm really talking about horseracing.
I have a long ago background as a radio broadcaster in college and afterwards. Worked for the major news-talk station in Baton Rouge and did pre & post game shows for LSU basketball and football in the 90's. Hosting a post game show during a 2-9 LSU football season is quite an experience, believe me.
I constantly see local track handicappers and TV hosts in the racing game that, imo, have no clue what they're doing. I've told myself many times that I can do that job better than them.
Now I'm gonna find out. Don't exactly know where to start, but i'm determined to get a foot in the door.

[Casino]

Go kick ass..and take names later.:ThmbUp: Anytime your in florida give me a ring.

[TJDave]

Today is the first day of the rest of my life...
Call it a midlife crisis if you will (i'm 42yrs old), but I am getting out of the service/restaurant industry for good. Those of you who are in this line of work will know exactly how i feel.


If it's your passion, in your blood, you'll never leave. Sounds like you've been carrying the load in your business relationship. I predict your ex-partner will soon be begging for your return. Getting drunk and showing your ass is a quick way to ruin. Give it some time. You'll probably be able to walk back in as the sole owner.

BTW, I'm in the biz- it's what I do/did... Restaurant turnarounds. If you'd like some advice (gratis) feel free to PM me.

[Dave Schwartz]

Phantom,

Check your PM.

Dave Schwartz

[JustRalph]

It must be catching......... my last day at my job is Friday........

[cj's dad]

Things like this normally do,

IN 2001, I had accumulated 15 years in a food manufacturing plant as their electrical license holder, ladder logic programmer, electrical troubleshooter etc... and was forced to work 6 days a week and report at 4 AM Monday morning for start up. I decided that when I had saved enough $$$ to take off a year I would quit. I did with no notice on a Monday morning. Spent the next 13 months doing what I wanted to do.

I visited CJ in Belgium, spent 2 weeks in London, and generally had a ball.

My next job was so much better than before.

It will work out POT; keep up the faith, don't look back and move forward.